
Help your friend recognize the abuse
Ask questions and acknowledge the abuse that is happening. Tell your friend what you see, and tell her it’s not healthy and they don’t deserve to be treated that way. Help your friend recognize the abuser’s excuses for being violent are invalid. She does not control how her abuser will react to circumstances, and she is not the cause of those reactions. Let her know there is a likelihood that the situation can escalate and get worse.