{"id":1093,"date":"2021-09-09T08:16:34","date_gmt":"2021-09-09T08:16:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.yellowbrickhouse.org\/?page_id=1093"},"modified":"2026-06-02T08:12:46","modified_gmt":"2026-06-02T08:12:46","slug":"a-friend-in-need-what-you-can-do","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.yellowbrickhouse.org\/staging26\/a-friend-in-need-what-you-can-do\/","title":{"rendered":"A Friend In Need: What you can do"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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A Friend In Need: What you can do<\/h1>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t
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Whether it\u2019s a woman in a domestic setting, a co-worker in the workplace, or a peer in a dating relationship, you can be the bridge to ending abuse. Here\u2019s how:<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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Help your friend recognize the abuse<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Ask questions and acknowledge the abuse that is happening. Tell your friend what you see, and tell her it\u2019s not healthy and they don\u2019t deserve to be treated that way. Help your friend recognize the abuser\u2019s excuses for being violent are invalid. She does not control how her abuser will react to circumstances, and she is not the cause of those reactions. Let her know there is a likelihood that the situation can escalate and get worse.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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Don\u2019t judge<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Validate your friend\u2019s feelings by listening to what she wants, even if you don\u2019t agree. If your friend wants to stay in the relationship, or is undecided or hopeful for change, try not to tell her that she is wrong. Abuse flourishes in silence, so the fact that she is talking at all is important. Keep your focus on your concern about her safety and self-esteem. Let her know she is worthy of more and keep the lines of communication open. Friends don\u2019t give ultimatums. Not only can it endanger the trust she has given to you, but can sound like the threats she experiences from her abuser. Be cognizant of the emotional space your friend may be in, and seek to provide a calm and supportive alternative.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Participate: Help your friend with her safety \nplan and her exit plan<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Help your friend focus on staying safe. Work with her on her safety plan, where the focus is on maintaining her safety and that of her children, or pets, or extended family. Having a safety plan can help save lives when moments count.<\/p>

Be an active participant in her exit plan. There are a lot of details to take care of (see link<\/a><\/span>) and your friend is going to need your help.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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It\u2019s not over when it\u2019s over: Stay in touch<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Keep in close contact with your friend; she may be feeling lonely, scared, embarrassed or angry. Your friend may want to get back together with her abuser. She may not feel strong enough to resist any pressure the abuser \u2013 or others who may not know the details \u2013 are putting on her. The risk of violence often increases after the victim leaves her abuser. It is important to remain vigilant with safety precautions.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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When you and your friend are not yet 18:<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Talk with your friend about telling parents or other trusted adults. Provide her with resources of local organizations that could help. If she won\u2019t talk to an adult, then you must find an adult you trust to talk to about it. Ask your parents or a school counsellor, nurse, or administrator. Ask the adult to help, to reach out, to intervene. Talk to your friend\u2019s parents about what is happening to your friend. Don\u2019t assume that your friend\u2019s parents know about the abuse.

Children\u2019s Aid Society (CAS) now offers support services to youth ages 16-18 who are experiencing abuse. Call them at 1-800-718-3850 for 24\/7 support.<\/strong><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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If you become frightened or frustrated, \nget support from friends and family\nmembers or other adults:\n<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Educate yourself about dating violence. You can\u2019t rescue your friend by yourself. But with support from other resources, family or friends, you can calmly support your friend as she deals with the violence
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A Friend In Need: What you can do Whether it\u2019s a woman in a domestic setting, a co-worker in the workplace, or a peer in a dating relationship, you can be the bridge to ending abuse. Here\u2019s how: Help your friend recognize the abuse Ask questions and acknowledge the abuse that is happening. Tell your […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"elementor_header_footer","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-1093","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellowbrickhouse.org\/staging26\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1093","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellowbrickhouse.org\/staging26\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellowbrickhouse.org\/staging26\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellowbrickhouse.org\/staging26\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellowbrickhouse.org\/staging26\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1093"}],"version-history":[{"count":36,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellowbrickhouse.org\/staging26\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1093\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9395,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellowbrickhouse.org\/staging26\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1093\/revisions\/9395"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellowbrickhouse.org\/staging26\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1093"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}